In my come back slash life update post, I asked you guys what would you want to see in my blog. Honestly though, I’ve been running out of post ideas so thank you so much to Bayance, Gaby and El because they suggested that I should do posts about my college experience. Thanks again to these lovelies and y’all should check their blog out! 🙂
I am actually very hyped to write this post because it feels like I’ve really grown a lot in that span of time. Almost a year of living independently and I’ve realized that I can actually do a LOT MORE than I could ever imagine. So here we go, buckle up and I hope you enjoy reading my FIRST YEAR IN UNI experience.
I have a lot of things to talk about: how did I meet my friends, how are my professors and subjects, how’s my program, how do I manage studying far away from home and yet spend time with the family every weekend, my youth service, my academic lessons and practices and more which I would really LOVE to talk about but for now, I will just answer one question.
Okay before I begin, I would like y’all to know that I am not literally alone in my dormitory or condo unit or whichever you prefer. I do have my roommates but honestly though, we don’t really talk… like at all. I wasn’t really expecting that I won’t be talking to them because I am so ready before to be friends with all of my roommates but it didn’t happen. And no, my roommates weren’t bad roommates, they are honestly nice but they were just really quiet and they really have a separate life going on. For the whole year that I’m with them, I really didn’t know much of their lives and we didn’t really become friends but it’s okay. So basically, I’m living with them but it feels as if I am alone so yeah, that justifies my title.
WHAT IS IT LIKE TO LIVE ALONE? HOW DID I ADJUST?
The day I moved in was June 16th, 2019 and it was literally a day before my first day of classes. Oh god, I remember the hassle I had to go through this day. I was arranging my stuff and we (my parents were still with me) had to go to the grocery to buy some food. It was a really looooong day and when I was all settled, my parents decided to go home and there, I was left in the condo. I was about to sleep that night and I remember staring into the ceiling, wondering what would happen in the next few days, and one thing was on my mind: would I freaking survive this life?
- Living alone and far from your family means you might have to deal with homesickness.
To those of you who doesn’t know, I’ve lived with my family my entire life. I was so dependent to them and I don’t really do household chores and I don’t even cook my own food so I was literally thinking, what the hell have I gotten to?
Back then, it feels surreal. It feels so scary and at the same time, very exciting. I was so excited to have a new surrounding and I was so excited about having new friends.
During the first few months which was also my own adjustment period, I noticed that I was getting sad and I kept on missing my parents, my two brothers and of course, my cats and dogs. I remember that there was one night when I cried so quietly because I was really missing my home… and I don’t really have anyone there at that time. Our academic year started earlier than other schools which starts at August– so my old friends who chose to study in Manila as well wasn’t available yet and so I had to endure the feeling alone. I kept talking to my parents through chat but it’s still different to have their presence at your side personally.
- Living alone sucks because after a long day of school, you go home and poof, you have no one else aside from you.
This occurred to me several times. Before, after a long and tiring day of school, my parents already prepared dinner and I can talk to them about how my day went and the like. But now, living alone sucks because when I go home, I want to share how my day went with a friend or a family but I have no one. I really had to adjust being active in chat and calls so that I could let my thoughts out… but it’s still different in person and I know some of you would get this feeling.
- Living alone means you have to freaking manage your money (whether be it your own money, weekly or monthly allowance.)
OH GOD THROUGHOUT THE YEAR I HAVE STRUGGLED WITH THIS. It was really hard for me to keep my budget and my expenses on track because for short, I don’t know how to budget my money. Sometimes I’d go on full grocery then I realize the next day I have a few money left to last the week. I have a weekly allowance and during the first months, my transportation fees and my grocery was included in my allowance. I reached out to my parents to give me another budget for those because sometimes I really run out of money…. and I rely on fast food to keep me alive. So speaking of food…
- Living alone means you have to discipline yourself.
OF MANY ASPECTS. You have to stay healthy because in college, it’s really hard to miss one day because if you do, it feels like you missed the whole year of school because there’s a lot of things going on. You have to eat healthy food and not just rely on fast food (which I did) because it’s really bad for the health. You have to discipline yourself to wake up early because you might be late for school and it’d be bad for the attendance record (if you have morning classes this is SO a struggle) and you have to discipline yourself about not going too to many places at once. I don’t mean this literally but I experienced going to A LOT of tourist spots in Metro Manila for like consecutive weeks… and it’s really bad for my budget.
- But hey, living alone isn’t all that bad. Living alone means you have your time.
My classes are from 7:30AM-1:30PM and after that, I have all the time to myself. I don’t have classes during Wednesdays and Saturdays so I have my time to do whatever I want like completing my requirements for a subject, doing my assignment, sleep, study in a coffee shop or the like. Since I’m away from my parents, I don’t really need to ask permission to go to the mall or somewhere anymore but I did my best to remind them of my whereabouts.
- Living alone can help you discover something you think you can’t do.
For me, it is definitely to cook food. I’ve mentioned earlier that I don’t really cook and because I live alone, GEEZ, I have to learn or else all my money would be spent for fast meals. If you’d ask about my cooking skills, sometimes it’s good and mostly it’s burnt… haha but I know this is something that I can improve.
- Living alone can make you explore possibilities, new perspectives and grow individually.
As I have said, living alone isn’t that bad. It’s actually a good thing if you make it a good thing. Sometimes I’d go around for a walk with my friends and explore the environment I’m in and it really opens my eyes to see something. Since I’ve lived in a peaceful and quiet hometown, everyday for me in Manila is a chance to see new things and learn. It’s a chance for me to see reality and have new perspectives. It’s also a chance for me to grow individually as a person and later on share my experiences with others I encounter. 🙂 It’s really a beautiful thing.
And I guess this is all for this post! I feel like I have SO much to say but maybe I’ll save them for the next topics that I’d tackle! 🙂 If you have any questions about my college experiences, you can ask me down below and I’d like to share it in the next posts! <3
If you are or have been to college/university already, how did you adjust in your freshman year?
Thank you so much for reading! I really hoped you enjoyed this post as much as I enjoyed writing it. See you in the next post!
On a side note, please stay at home and don’t go out unless very necessary. Practice social distancing if you do. Salute to all the front liners risking their own lives to help in this whole situation. Speak up to the government if they’re not doing their part. Wash your hands and avoid touching your face. Contact your families, relatives and friends who are far away from you, make sure they are safe and well. Stay safe everyone!